“It’s a Great Life!”

One of the drunk students at Holy Cross yelled at me on my first day back for the Vigil for Justice yesterday.   He shouted, “Get a life!!!”

I yelled back, “It’s a great life!!”

It got me thinking and realizing what a rewarding life it is to stand up for justice.   This will be my standard reply when the drunks yell it again.

Posted in College of the Holy Cross | Tagged , , , , | Leave a comment

Back to the Vigil

I am returning to the College of the Holy Cross for the fall semester in a couple days, to restart the Vigil for Justice.  I now have a thirty year plan so that anything less than that can surprise me.   This will be my life for as long as it takes to see justice and accountability.   I am moving permanently to Worcester, MA, where Holy Cross is, after three years of traveling.   This is so I can have my dogs with me, can take care of the house, have a garden, meet people, all while doing the Vigil for Justice at Holy Cross.   I can’t wait to get started again!


Posted in College of the Holy Cross | Leave a comment

Surprises Today

Today was full of surprises — all because of the people I spoke to or heard from.   One surprise was hearing from the composer and singer of this wonderful song that I often sing in my head.  He is singing it here, in this Youtube video.   He reached out to me, which is the big surprise.   It never crossed my mind to contact him, even though I sing his song in my head.


 A couple years ago there was also a very surprising day.   I met the nephew of the Jesuit who sexually assaulted me.  He told me his Jesuit uncle sexually abused his sisters and his cousins too.    You know there is a God when Jesuit leadership can lie to you that there is no one else, just you, and the Jesuit’s nephew sets the record straight and wants to help.

Posted in College of the Holy Cross | Leave a comment

Ignorance of Title IX at the College of the Holy Cross

In the past month I learned about extraordinary ignorance of Title IX at the College of the Holy Cross.  Neither William Conley, Jr., nor  Robert Hart (head of Public Safety) knew who is the Title IX Coordinator at Holy Cross.   Turns out the director is Conley, who chose not to respond to my email.   Hart ignored email and phone calls for a month.   So, I contacted Sue Feitelberg, a member of the Board of Trustees who I thought cared about things like this.   She ignored me too.   Then I heard from someone I never contacted because he is involved in the unlawful retaliation against me:   Vincent O’Rourke, the college lawyer.   I never contacted him, but he contacted me.  O’Rourke wrongly claims Title IX only covers current students and employees.   Actually, Title IX also covers FORMER STUDENTS like me.   Fortunately, there are many helpful sources of information about Title IX, so it’s very easy for me to prove the college lawyer got it wrong.   Title IX prohibits retaliation against both current and former students with claims of sexual assault and retaliation.   So I want to file a complaint with the Title IX coordinator.    It looks like I have to report the college’s ignorance and failure to take my complaint to the federal Office of Civil Rights instead.

Posted in College of the Holy Cross | Tagged , , , , | Leave a comment

One of My Best Companions at the Vigil

One of my best supporters in the three years of the Vigil for Justice is Franz, aka Mr. Franz.   A blind friend in NYC put me on a waiting list for “reject dogs” from a very large nonprofit in NY that breeds and trains dogs mostly for visibly impaired people.   Franz flunked out at 18 months (he was too interested in the babies he saw).   At that time, I was fourth on the waiting list (after 3.5 years of waiting), but everyone ahead of me wanted a Lab.

Franz wants to be where I am, so he comes on some of my day trips to Holy Cross.   His favorite thing to do all day is chase a frisbee or a ball.

13593_768811573162211_135020534057456704_n 10491075_768810689828966_6379903145128098805_n

When he doesn’t come with me, he is always eager to see me when I get home.   I am very, very blessed.

Posted in College of the Holy Cross | Leave a comment

A Question

Earlier this week a Special Agent in the Federal Bureau of Investigation asked me a simple question on the phone:   “Why haven’t you taken a stand?”   Pause.  “Why don’t you come here and tell us about this?”

I almost laughed.

I know I did that before and no one listened.

And I take stands.


Posted in College of the Holy Cross | Leave a comment

Being Blessed

Not sure what I want the college lawyer and his colleagues to know — they are a constant presence on this road, my everyday readers.  (Hi Vin!)

In the quiet time on the blog, I have been super busy other ways.  About every other day, concerned that my life cannot only be about me, I see what I can do to help someone else. Examples?  There was a persistent racial incident at a local store, and a store manager (Puerto Rican) who I knew could listen.   I talked to him.   I have a dear friend who had something go wrong and it was a mistake causing his problems, so I suggested how to get at the root.    Next door to me, a neighbor was in foreclosure, and her house is being cleared out and she was hospitalized through almost all this time.   So I went next door and found all the phone numbers on the windows that contractors and Fannie Mae leave on windows and I called.   They stopped.  They will wait for this lady to get her things.  (She does not want the house, just a few things in the house.)   Whenever I feel my life is too much about me, I do a check and make sure I do something that helps someone else.   It grounds me.  It changes my focus…

And me?  Among all the details about selling property and buying a house in Worcester (my plans)….., I stopped into places nearby to check in, visited and remembered.   So, there I am in a cemetery in Watervliet, NY at the graves of my Irish people in the anniversary week Grandma Kate died and Aunt Spunky died.  Grandpa is there too, and a whole bunch of people related to me for centuries.

And I could not find them!  I remembered you always see other graves that sound like ours, and you see them more prominently.   But we are plaques on the ground, the kind you can walk over and get completely buried in snow and probably have grass over them.   I couldn’t find them, and I stopped trying after calling my sister for better directions.   They’ll be here next time, I said.

So I’m there, with my dogs in the car in the shade after a long walk, and I sit on a grassy hill by myself and I call my friend Maureen, a Holy Cross alum two years ahead of me.  I called Maureen from St. Agnes cemetery….   I had not talked to her in years.    It was like all was present and just continuing on….  Maureen!!!  I  told her all about the past and current Jesuit crap and the retaliation from Philip Boroughs, SJ, the only Holy Cross Jesuit who retaliates.  I told her about the cemetery….  And she shared her experiences, a brother with a sudden diagnosis of a certain death from an incurable illness, and her best friend, a Jesuit priest, being screwed over at Boston College by the rector of the Jesuit community.

Without having to say it, being with Maureen on the grassy hill at the cemetery, I knew I had many gifts from Holy Cross.    I know those blessings are wide and deep and interconnected with many people I know and people I didn’t meet yet….   It will be good to be in Worcester and start my life there after three years of traveling…..



Posted in College of the Holy Cross | Leave a comment