Back when I first contacted Fr. McFarland about the sexual abuse, and he invited me to meet with him, he apologized over and over and over and over, and kept asking and asking how the college can help. He said much more, but all in the same voice of concern, care, remorse and wanting to know.
But when the help from the college was finally there, nearly two years later, it came in the form of a “take it or leave it” offer. That offer was 100% divorced from all that he said before, about wanting to know how the college could help.
There will be no take it or leave it offer this time. Whatever resolution is reached, it will have to fit like a glove with my life and the medical advice, and be final and finished.